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Why Nothing Changes
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The following chapters are from Why Nothing Changes. They were written specifically for individuals and couples. I use the book as a resource and typically give it to couples. It is not meant to be read for insight alone, but to be used alongside the work, returning to sections as they become relevant in your own interactions. The focus is on shifting from looking at your partner to taking ownership of your own actions on a day-to-day basis, particularly in how you engage in conversation. Please read the chapters in order, as each builds on the previous one.

Preface

Chapter 3

My Blueprint

Chapter 6

Three Patterns

Chapter 9

Survival States

Chapter 12

Definitional Privileges

Chapter 15

Healthy Relationships

Chapter 1

Focus on You

Chapter 4

Divergent Conversations

Chapter 7

Corrosive Actions (I)

Chapter 10

The Relationship Landscape

Chapter 13

Rewiring the Loop

Closing Reflections

Chapter 2

The Caricature

Chapter 5

Legacy of Injury

Chapter 8

Corrosive Actions (II)

Chapter 11

Clean Conversations

Chapter 14

Emotions

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